The feeling of isolation can be painful, especially during the holidays. Even when surrounded by family and friends, a sense of disconnect can overpower an otherwise joyous occasion. In filmmaker Mekhai Lee’s powerful short film, Them That’s Not, this identity of being an outsider is told through the lens of empathy and grace. The film, running a concise 18 minutes, won the Gold Hugo award for Best Live Action Short at the 2025 Chicago International Film Festival.

Breaking Through Emotional Avoidance

Drea (Angel Theory) is a struggling poet, sensitive to the world around her. Her quiet demeanor is in stark contrast to her family’s larger-than-life personality, which is vividly on display during a wake at her grandmother’s house. Drea, an introspective and proud queer, artistic, and deaf young woman, can’t help but feel distanced from her relatives. Furthermore, her family’s lack of effort to become knowledgeable in ASL makes it difficult to engage in even the most basic communication. Drea interprets their nonexistent effort as a symbol of her self-worth, prompting her to self-isolate to numb the pain.

During this time at her grandmother’s, Drea unexpectedly encounters her estranged father, Samuel (Biko Eisen-Martin). He is 20 years into a 25-year prison sentence, released for the day on a furlough to say goodbye to his late mother. Drea and Samuel are essentially strangers, but their blood connection and shared love for the family matriarch are the catalyst that gives them a path toward reconciliation.

Stunning Attention to Detail and Craft

What stands out most in writer/director Mekhai Lee’s film is the overall craft. Impressive sound design thoroughly articulates Drea’s experience of being hard of hearing. Conversations between her and her family members sound as if she’s underwater and struggling to make sense of every word and syllable. Them That’s Not is a film driven by sound, both its presence and absence. The final scene ends with a cover of Billie Holiday’s “God Bless the Child” performed by Lo Steele, which hits all the right notes.

Director’s Statement

“I set out to tell this story at the passing of my own grandmother when faced with how isolating grief in a family setting could be, especially for those who are closer to the deceased. I found connective tissue in that isolation amongst communities, i.e., identifying as queer in your heteronormative family, identifying as Hard of Hearing in your entirely Hearing family. Thus, Billie Holliday’s song, “God Bless the Child,” commissioned to this film by Concord Publishing and Newfest Film Festival, became the quintessential tune to bring this film to life. “God Bless the Child” heralds that isolation, and I was keen on flipping the message of the song to be one that instead reminds its listener of a trusted community. That “our own” can rest in those around us whom we love… even if they’re the most unexpected source of solace.”

Takeaway

Anchored by strong performances that reach a climax in a stunning final scene, Them That’s Not is full of empathy and warmth. Sharp visuals by cinematographer Sade Ndya create an absorbing viewing experience, as well as a highly memorable film.